We, all those couples who are committed into relationship, did a checklist for the compatibility with our own partners during last night BGR(Boy Girl Relationship) Seminar. While people were busy celebrating their Valentine's Day or the other so called 'Single Party', this is how we(single and in relationship) have our day in our church! A good way to avoid any 'unhealthy pre-marital activities' (In my thought). LOL~
So this is the checklists of mine and his:
What is/are your reason(s) for having life partner/marrying?
The following are some reasons people give for getting married. Which do you consider legitimate reasons, and which are not good reasons. Do the checklist and compare it with your partner to see how you agree/disagree
[Mine]
(NO) Parent expectation
(NO) To escape a troubled home
(YES) Someone who will make me happy
(NO) Financial security
(NO) Cannot live without the other person
(YES) Someone to care about me and take care of me
(NO) Age panic
(YES) To raise a family
(NO) My romantic ideal
(YES) My best friend and companion
(NO) Intellectual stimulation
(NO) For status or emigration
(NO) For legitimate sexual fulfillment
(NO) To have someone who will do what I say
( ) Other.....................
[His]
(NO) Parent expectation
(NO) To escape a troubled home
(YES) Someone who will make me happy
(NO) Financial security
(NO) Cannot live without the other person
(YES) Someone to care about me and take care of me
(NO) Age panic
(NO) To raise a family
(NO) My romantic ideal
(YES) My best friend and companion
(YES) Intellectual stimulation
(NO) For status or emigration
(NO) For legitimate sexual fulfillment
(NO) To have someone who will do what I say
( ) Other.....................
Some of the statements are kinda funny though! But there is no right or wrong...
So there it was! 93% compatible I can say! Now, what's yours?
啊。。。后悔那么的早回来金宝！想念东甲了哟~
起初想赶快回来金宝的原因是因为东甲好闷。。。后悔没带电脑去，不然的话就可以打game了！哈哈哈哈~
但是回来金宝之后又觉得自己回来的太早了，看到朋友们却在facebook说他们13或15日才回来。。。好遗憾><
想念婆婆了，
想念爸爸了，
想念那儿的新年气氛，
想念小姑所煮的菜肴，
想念那里一切的回忆！
好舍不得噢~
想起婆婆，又哭了。。。
脑海里不仅出现当时婆婆及陪伴在她身边的爸爸，大小姑和叔叔，在门口送我走的场景
临走时抱着婆婆，婆婆哭了。。。好对不起她！这不孝的孙女干嘛那么早就回了。。。
亲戚们，我好想念，好爱你们哦！
*我的偏头痛又发作了，不得不停笔了*
Suddenly remember the letter that Sophie wrote to Claire in the movie, Letters to Juliet. It’s so powerful that it melt my heart. Fascinating yet meaningful.
Dear Claire,
‘What’ and ‘if’ are two words as non-threatening as words can be.
But put them together side-by-side, and they have the power to haunt you for the rest of your life.
‘What if?’...
I don’t know how your story ended.
But if what you felt then was true love, then it’s never too late.
If it was true then, why wouldn’t it be true now?
You need only the courage to follow your heart...
I don’t know what a love Juliet’s feels like...
A love to leave loved ones for, a love to cross oceans for...
But I’d like to believe, if I ever were to feet it, that I’d have the courage to seize it.
And Claire, if you didn’t, I hope one day that you will.”
All my love,
Juliet
It’s hard to going the distance! Will I leave Kampar? Will I leave my family and cross the ocean for him? Will I? Arghhh...it’s so hard to decide! What if...I do? What if I don’t? What will happen then?
Love...Love???
Is it still love?
Will it be love if I am always the last in your heart?
The love is getting bitter...bitter and bitter. At the same time, my love becomes hatred! I am finding the love we once kept alive, kept burning, kept real, pure & true.
But now, it seems like i can't feel it anymore. Is it our hearts has changed? Or the time has changed it? All the challenges we went through it all together and it strengthens our love. But after the day before, and all those incidents that had happen, I believe, truly believe that they have weaken my love for you. It's so hard to explain it...I think the one that can explain it, is my Heart!
Whatever I do seems wrong to you. I am always wrong even when there is nothing wrong with me, but when it is you, you are always right, even when you are wrong. This love is miserable! This love becomes a nightmare for me nowadays that it broken me down...and keeps on haunting me down.
I am tired...really tired, extremely tired. Tired of this kind of love, tired of this unapproved love. I'm suffocating! I'm tired of being the love one as defined by you, the perfect one for you. I'm imperfect...I am trying to push myself hard to be the one that you long for...independent, strong & firm, courage, everything you want me to be. I'm scare, til I'm trying to runaway from this love, to give it up!
But now, i found a sense of satisfaction as I runaway from it. To be alone, closed up myself alone from you, from the world. I feel that I like to spend my time alone, without you, without anybody. I don't like to bother what you or others are doing anymore...
I think everyone, especially those who do not approve of this love will be happy if I decide to give it up. Am I right? 'Cause I believe they can see it won't last long. Am I right? It is also not a relationship from the beginning...so why should I care bout it? Care? Looks like not anymore, I can't feel I give a damn care bout it~
Am I crazy? 'Cause sense like I've changed. I love to be alone, so much...that I become selfish than ever. Keep on thinking of nothing, just think of to be alone.
My heart your heart. They are apart...not attached. It feels more than distance between us, between me and this world. I just feel want to die suddenly without anyone knowing it, just like I never exist here...Does anyone have the same feeling too?
Hmmm…seems like I’ve abandon my blog for too long of time. Oh…should have said ‘I’ve never wrote anything personal regarding my life’. Yeah, gonna throw my tantrum here. Well, i'm gonna try this out. Lemme see how far it will go!
Hell! This few days kinda messed me up, felt upset about how people treat me and what they said about me, even if it’s long long time ago. I still can’t leave it behind. I can say it hurts me a lot, for I’m an oversensitive ‘pest’! For a ‘pest’ like me…no one will try to understand even if I die, that’s right! Who will even care about a pest?! Hahaha…
People called me selfish. People called me that I take advantage of someone else to make my life easy! Wow, those are great comments on me huh? Maybe in some ways I’m that kind of people you think I am.
Before this get too far, here, I would like to apologise if you feel offended by what I posted here. I do not have the intention to hurt anyone or making fun of anyone of you out there. But, I’m just trying to express my feelings, share my problems out so that you would understand me even better. Maybe it will be a lil’, but it means a lot to me.
Let’s get down to the nitty-gritty- I know that I’m not the person that will easily pour out my feelings that buried deep inside my heart and mind. You know, it’s hard for me to share and talk about anything as anyone did so easily, I’m so…useless! So, the best way is to write it out! Haha…Silly!
Oh ya, if you think that I’m taking advantage on you or anyone, please be sure about it and why don’t you say it straight to my face, no need to say it at my back and spread it around. People, good job though! Very impressive! Just keeps it on, pretending that I do not know a damn thing about it! God bless you!!!
One more thing, if you think that I owe you anything, just tell me. I will pay you back! Thanks loads!
Gutted! I mean it people! ‘Cause you didn’t say it in an encouraging way. You’re not helping me to grow or to be better. You’re ruining me instead!
An advice given to me by Jen after pouring out to her- ‘Do not be a person that based on others’ requirements. Just be yourself.’ Thanks friend! Appreciate it.
If you want me to be the person you want me to be, that matches all your requirements, very truly I tell you, I can’t, it’s impossible! For no one is flawless…me either!
Why don’t you try to focus a lil’ bit less on others’ weaknesses and more on yours. If you can’t bear with my weaknesses, than you can choose not to get along with me.
